Okay, so please bare with me. This is my very very first blog ever! Still so new to me. I want my first blog to be about something that is very near and dear to me. Kids.
See, I think about this ALOT. How on earth can a mother go on about her life without her kids? She carried this baby (or babies) for 9 months. Although it felt like 12 lol. How can you let someone else raise them for you? Well, guess what? That is one thing I have to come to terms with that I will NEVER EVER understand! I'm sure that there are certain situations don't get me wrong, that require them to be looked after by someone else for a while. And that's not what I mean. I mean for life! Forever! What's the hold up lol. Why?
Why would a perfectly healthy women leave her babies behind to be looked after and loved by someone else? First lets check out some of those situations I was talking about a second ago. Okay, say the mother...is on drugs. Seek help. Get well to be the best mother you can be. Say she...leaves them to "better herself" but never comes back? Lame. Why would you ever do that? Say she...gives them up for adoption? Yes. That would be the first step in saying "I simply can't do it on my own". Noone should ever look down on those who are up front and honest about it. I know I don't. Just don't tell everyone how strong and independent you are and need no help from anyone. Please don't do that. Don't lie to yourself and everyone else. Be honest. Always. Because in one way or another, almost all of us have gotten help before. Telling someone you pay your own bills doesn't have anything to do with the kids.
Look, first of all, in all honesty, yes I do in fact know of someone in my family that chooses to live this way. I want you to know that I also think of these things because lets face it, it happens everyday. Just because I look at my kids and think about how I cannot ever live without them, doesn't mean all mothers think this way.
If you can find someone to keep your kids while you aren't able to for whatever reason that may be, good for you. But why on earth not ever go back? From personal experience, I have witnessed a wonderful mother who kept the house so clean and loved and cared for her babies. One day her husband, does what he is know for and leaves. Is just done with his family and moves on. I can only imagine what went threw her head. Huge blow. OMG how am I ever gonna make it alone with my babies? One thing is for certain. It ain't gonna be easy. In fact its gonna be so hard sometimes trying to figure out how your gonna buy diapers next, formula, food, everything. Lord help the single mothers!
That's when one has to man up. Forget that your man has left you. Easier said then done. I know. But for real, put aside all that anger you hold against him for he has left you with the greatest gift you could have ever recieved in your life! Your baby (babies). And for that we should be so grateful. Maybe not to him. But to the Good Lord above. He knew that was his plan for you all along. He knows how truly strong you are on the inside and out. He...who knows all things. Love him.
So what now? I'm stuck in a rut it seems with my kids and no man. Why are you thinking that way anyways? Do you know for a fact that you only have a short time to live? Noone knows that. So what to do next? Well, first things first, get that no good cheaten, leavin' puke for child support! Very important. Even if you never see a dime from him it will be documented and it will add up. They will suspend his licence and take his tax money. Whatever the system can do to get it to you...push for it! Duh! Now if your afraid your child may be in danger with the father then by all means, do what you gotta do but keep them with you. Secondly, do for yourself and your kids. Don't stoop to his level and rebel your own self. There are precious children counting on you. It might not be what we want, and it might be alot to take in at once, but its what we know is right in our hearts. Ignoring this only puts guilt in your heart and that is not a good thing to carry around with you everyday.
I have personally dealt with being left to raise a child alone. Its not fun. Its very very hard. It required long hours waiting tables and trying to go to school at the same time. But at the end of the day or my shift, I could go get those diapers, ect. You do what you got to do. In the end, the person your child has or will become...is all because of you. Don't let it be because of someone else. Love your children, be there for them everyday. When they wake up. When they go to sleep. Get them. Keep them. Love them Always. They will not forget that. Ever.
It is not my goal to slam someone for leaving their babies if in the end its for the best. What I'm trying to understand is what goes on in that persons head that makes them think they shouldn't have them. Whatever reason that may be is it worth it. Really? I am not blind to fact that everyone is human. These are just thought and believes that go threw MY head. Nancy Bruhn. What makes me, well, me.
If you took the time to read this, my first blog ever, thank you and please leave your own opinions because after all...everyone is entitled to their own anyways lol. I have so many more ideas and thoughts. I'm loving this.
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